Before you wait for that Brother
Few days ago, I read a story that said one lady broke her engagement of 6 years with a guy. The guy actually was the one that shared the story online. According to him, he said, "Ordinary 6 years of engagement o. She just returned my ring, saying she can no longer wait for just 4 more years."
I guess it was because of the "4 more years" she heard that made her break the engagement before the guy will turn her into Lord of the ring. The lady was like, "Bros abeg come and carry your ring and be going."
If that guy was close to me, I would give him a dirty slap for intending to keep a lady for 10 years. 6 years of engagement, he called "ordinary" and 4 years, he called "just". Haba bros, wetin happen? How did that lady offend you? Well, this is one of the things that happen when you are not ready for marriage but enter a relationship.
It's this story and stories like this that inspired this article. I want you to take your time and read through. It will bless you.
As a sister, before you wait for any brother, you need to be sure of what you are getting into. Many ladies have waited for brothers to their greatest regret. They waited but the brother ended up not marrying them. They waited, but were disappointed at the end. They waited, but the brother left them after everything and married someone else.
So, before you wait, you need to be sure of the things I will be sharing with you later in this article.
Lets not also forget that a lot of ladies waited and everything turned out fine. They end up getting married and that has been one of the greatest decisions of their lives-they waited. There is nothing wrong with waiting for a brother that's trying to figure out some things but you need to be sure of some things.
When a brother asks you to wait for him, some things can be responsible for that, he's either not ready for marriage yet, doesn't have money for marriage or is trying to figure out one or two things before finally settling down with you.
Now, as you're waiting you need to be aware of the following...
1. The brother may end up not marrying you even though you waited for him. He may ditch you, marry someone else and forget about you and your waiting. He may come up with a cock and bull stories all pointing at the fact that he won't marry you again.
2. Other brothers will be approaching and disturbing you for marriage, those that are ready and have the money, only what they need from you is a "yes" and the marriage ceremony will be taking care of within a month.
3. ️Your parents, relatives, friends, well wishers and even the society will be pressuring you, asking you questions, "Why are you waiting for this brother while they're those who are ready to marry and settle down with you immediately?"
4. Your time and prime is going too. Every lady has a time and prime(that period when brothers will be flocking around you wanting to marry you). As you're waiting, you're adding in age and your prime is also going.
Waiting will cost you something. That's why you really need to be sure before you wait.
Now, before you wait..
1. Make sure the brother clearly talked about marriage with you, he proposed to you and you accepted. Don't assume that he is going to marry you because you have been friends with him. Don't make a mistake about this.
2. Does he have vision and prospects? Life is all about risks. Everything we do in life involves an element of risk. Waiting is risky. Getting married too is risky. But then, taking calculated risk is what makes the difference. So, before you take the risk of waiting, ask yourself, does he have a vision, prospect and direction for his life that he's going after? Don't just wait for any kind of person. Make sure the person knows where he's going in life.
3. Pray about it. Are you convinced about this brother? What is the basis of your waiting? Don't just base your waiting on mere words, probably he promised you marriage and that's what you're basing your waiting on. It should be something much more than that. Do your homework. Pray about it, make sure this person is God's will for you.
Now, for brothers...
Before you ask a sister to wait for you, make sure you have done your homework. Make sure you will marry her. Don't just go around promising sisters marriage and asking them to wait for you. Make sure this is really the sister you want to marry when everything eventually turns out right for you.
Promising a sister marriage and later failing her is very bad. She rejected other guys, probably better than you, to wait for you. So, from the onset if you know you won't marry her, let her be. Don't use a sister to pass time. Na devil go punish you o!
Thanks for reading
Singles & Married Coach
© Okolie Samuel
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