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100 WAYS TO KNOW IF YOU ARE DATING YOUR BESTFRIEND . Uncle Romanus, if you are still feeling shy to ask the conductor for your change when you're in a bus with bae, then you are not best friends at all, you're just two familiar people doing relationship. Some uncles cannot even price meat and fish in the market with pride when aunty is around. Uncle will just be feeling all shy, trying to look like a gentleman in front of her. If this is you sir, take it from me, there is a big gap in your friendship with her, a very big gap that pretending to be friends cannot fill. Let me tell you a true story that happened with me and my Bestie Choco. Okay so, I was supposed to pick her up to go shopping. I got there, tried to order an Uber, and the taxi was taking forever to get there. 5minutes became 15minutes, then 30 minutes. We couldn't wait anymore seeing that the traffic was crazy outside. So we decided to take a bike(okada). We walked to the bus stop, I stopped a bike and

When Women Say Men Are Scum A 22 year old girl was brutally assaulted and raped at Benin, in a church. She's dead. A 12 year old girl was raped by 11 men at Jigawa. When women say men are scum, this is what they mean. It's not ghosts that are raping babies, children and adults. It's exhausting. While I worked with FIDA, I saw things. Things that I couldn't bring myself to write about. Some days were unnerving. I remember speaking to a teen that was sexually assaulted by a law enforcement officer. Her Father was in the next room o. He had no idea. I recall the Lady that took her children to stay with her father. Her Father raped them. They were aged 8 and 5. I just locked up because...what?! I know the sick girl that was raped by a family friend. Trusted. He came to repair something. He raped her. She was on medications, she was helpless, she did nothing. While her Mother spoke to me, she said this was the second time her daughter was raped. And eve

Truth; I got your back   Lately I've met lots of ladies who are potheads and when they ask me if I smoke and I tell em no they mostly feel uncomfortable. I laugh cus I've been involved with ladies who are chimneys, and most times I was the one getting the supplies and even rolling em up for them while my beer bottle beside me. I don't smoke cigarettes or take any variety of weed or form of drug, I do alcohol only. Yes, we all have our poison and habits. I barely do spirits, rum, whiskey, vodka, cognac...I do red wine, champagne when I'm loaded, but more of beer instead, cus I understand my system and the importance of moderation. I'm not fat, I'm skinny. Strong drinks and trees fucks my system up, it dries me up and leaves me looking unhealthy. To maintain my healthy looks I stay off smokes and certain drinks. I drink atleast a litre of water after every round of beer to properly hydrate and flush my system too. In a relationship I don't have issues

Dear Godly husbands, Bcc: Godly husbands-to-be Please learn how to lay the bed nicely after you rise in the morning. Be the help that your wife needs to be the perfect helpmeet that God has called her to be in your life. It's just good manners, nothing more. Sometime ago I was in Calabar, checked into a hotel all nice and comfy to stay for a few days. Each morning before stepping out to my meetings I will dress the bed and make sure my clothes and belonging are nicely arranged in the wardrobe. I will dress the bed all nice like I have a degree in hotel management😀. The only thing that would be left for the janitors to do is mop the floor and make sure the bathroom is neat and tidy like they always do. I am already used to the idea of tidying up my bed when I rise in my house, because I'm training myself to think and act like a co-helpmeet to my spouse. In my head I'm always thinking; "What can I do to help this wife of God?". A hotel room was no diff

Hey about-to-wed ; After you people have finished talking all those your "for better for worse, in sickness and in colobia virus, in poverty, in quarrels and strong hardship, till death do us part" and other confessions you will make at the altar. The moment you get back to your hotel, remove all your clothes and take a hot shower. After that don't dress up, get completely naked, the two two both of you. Get totally naked. Forget about that first time sex you want to have, because I know that will be the first meal on your menu. Wait first uncle, tell her to kneel down, remember I said naked. No bra, no panties, let the will of God be exposed to you. I know by this time your brain will want to burst, just beholding her beauty, I also know that with the way wifey will be kneeling before you facing her future, she may not be too comfortable, but relax and control yourselves briefly, don't worry the food is your own, you will still eat each other and request for to

THE FRUITS OF LOVE! Please stop lowering the standard for which love is built. Stop confusing fantasies with love. If it leaves you breathless it's not love, it's asthma! If it stops your heart from beating it's death! If you cannot live without it then it's slavery! If it sweeps you off your feet, it's epilepsy! If it's holding you down at different sides, it's cramp! If it makes you cry always, then it's onions! If it makes your stomach sing, it's ulcer! If it's making you go crazy, then it's madness! If its making you loose your self control, it's sin! If it gives you butterfly in your belly it's diarrhea! If it leaves you speechless it's Michael Jackson! If it makes you high, it's marijuana! And If it's giving you sleepless nights please avoid your village people. 1Corinthians 13 teaches us the reality of love. It says; Love is patient. Love is kind. It does not envy. It does not b

BEFORE YOU WAIT FOR THAT BROTHER Few days ago, I read a story that said one lady broke her engagement of 6 years with a guy. The guy actually was the one that shared the story online. According to him, he said, "Ordinary 6 years of engagement o. She just returned my ring, saying she can no longer wait for just 4 more years." I guess it was because of the "4 more years" she heard that made her break the engagement before the guy will turn her into Lord of the ring. The lady was like, "Bros abeg come and carry your ring and be going." If that guy was close to me, I would give him a dirty slap for intending to keep a lady for 10 years.  6 years of engagement, he called "ordinary" and 4 years, he called "just". Haba bros, wetin happen? How did that lady offend you? Well, this is one of the things that happen when you are not ready for marriage but enter a relationship. It's this story and stories like this that inspired this a

*Her husband had been admitted in the hospital.*  He requested her to come with a book he loves to read when she comes to visit him next. He looked so frail. At home, she looked in his box of books where he told her the book will be. That was when she found an old book with a black cover. His diary. She's never seen the book before. He must have kept it well hidden. It was at the bottom of the box. She began to read it. *"Day one of our marriage. God I just want to thank You for the wife you have given me. Tonight is our honeymoon but she looks so exhausted. I don't think we will make love but it doesn't matter. She is mine for life. I have just kissed her forehead and I will make love to her tomorrow morning. Walk with us in this marriage"* As she read those words, it all made sense. That honeymoon night, he did not make love to her, not because he didn't want her, but because he thought to let her rest because she looked exhausted. All this t

Arranged   I never knew you before today Our parents set us up on a date Everything is just happening so fast I can't believe we are getting married The wedding was mouth gaping Where is your husband; tell him The commissioner awaits him My "husband " sounds strange Okay my husband I would have To get accustomed to it fast Before people realize we were... It's our wedding night I'm a bold woman who knows her wants And can identify what she needs But this night is going to be ... I need help; this strange handsome... He gets me my cup of wine I take it a sip from it and the next ... His large hands on my hip area Trying to put myself under control His right hand brushes my left nipple Oh my God! The fire is bottling up My heart races in between breathes I'm gonna collapse; oh! I can't do this Subject your emotions or he's gonna find out You are a chastity myself told me He leans closer and I quickly move away from him H

Henry Barlow's Poem -- Building The Nation. Today I did my share in building the nation. I drove a Permanent Secretary to an important, urgent function In fact, to a luncheon at the Vic. The menu reflected its importance Cold bell beer with small talk, Then fried chicken with niceties Wine to fill the hollowness of the laughs Ice-cream to cover the stereotype jokes Coffee to keep the PS awake on the return journey I drove the Permanent Secretary back. He yawned many times in the back of the car Then to keep awake, he suddenly asked, Did you have any lunch friend? I replied looking straight ahead And secretly smiling at his belated concern That I had not, but was slimming! Upon which he said with a seriousness Which amused more than annoyed me, Mwanachi, I too had none! I attended to matters of state. Highly delicate diplomatic duties you know, And friend, it goes against my grain, Causes me stomach ulcers and wind, Ah, he continued, yawning again, The pai

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No to Limitations; You can be your dreams . Lawyer by day, nurse by night. Meet Elizabeth Owusua who fulfilled her childhood dream of becoming both a nurse and a lawyer  🙌🏾   🧑🏾‍🎓 👩‍⚕️ Here’s her story “As a child I always wanted to be a nurse, lawyer and a fashion designer all at the same time with no idea how they were going to happen because of my background. Well I attended senior high school at Mfantsiman girls which helped shaped my entire being. From there I went to the Nursing and Midwifery Training College at Korle bu where I graduated with a Diploma in Nursing in 2008 and started working as a nurse in 2010 after national service. I continued to Central University College where I did top up for a Bsc Degree in Nursing alongside work and graduated in 2013. In 2014 I applied to Gimpa law faculty for an LLB and I got admitted which I did along with work mostly night shifts and gained admission to the Law school in 2017 after graduating from Gimpa and fina

The Bath I embarked on this journey unplanned I got to the village only to realize That my body care bag had been forgotten in my house in town I sought for where to get a good body care bag All to no avail Granny had given me a tiny stick of wood in place of a tooth brush A cut out piece from from a sad bag for a sponge A green coloured soap to bath with From my tours at the village shops... I discovered the shop owners only sold those tiny Kiddies expired cookies to indigent kids I actually sought something edible to chew on Just in my pondering state, Granny bought that Soft tasty cookie from the woman in front of whose shop we stood Air had already gained access into it On my first chew I spat it out quickly Even before my first bite,  I already perceived this ill sickening Scent from it. Seemed like it had lasted a year before its sale It had discouraged me But Granny persuaded I'd like it Despite the breath taking disgusting ancient scent I smiled as I

FAMILY PRIORITIZATION For the men and the women they love. A married person has 3 families. First, their direct family. This is the family you were born into. Second, their partner's family. This is the family you are marrying into. Third, their future family. This is the family you will create with your partner. Before i teach more on this, let me tell you a story. Some time ago I read a story about a woman who bitterly complained about her husband wanting to bring his brother of 24 years into their one room. Just a single room oh. (They were married with 3 kids). The man said he must bring his brother out of the village to the city. She advised him not to bring the brother yet but rather he should try to finish up the second room (there was an uncompleted room) before bringing him but the husband refused to take her advice and did his wish. I remember personally kicking against the man's decision but some arrogant guys called me names etc that's a m

CHANGE YOUR FOCUS! In a meeting of mentors this morning - married and courting men in ministry. I heard a man say, "I know my wife has a lot of issues, infact she seems to have new issues everyday, but we have been married for eleven years and I cannot tell you even one of those issues because I don't remember even one of them." 😭 This is what I call an intentional memory loss! Some people buy extra memory card just to store offenses. Father!!!😭 Another husband looked straight at the men in the room and said, "I have a 'foolish' wife who occasionally forgets to flush after using the loo, and I am a 'foolish' husband who flushes her poo without remembering to attack her or make an issue out of it. We have been happily living 'foolishly' for Nine years." 😭😭 My God! I have been sober since morning. I have heard this said in different ways before, but I don't know why these words are hitting differently today.  One hus

In Admiration I Died It started as a flutter in my feet, heading up and moving through my really long legs. “These legs feel wobbly” I think to myself as I try to balance on my feet while carrying out cheap gossip with the girls and looking at the fine boy who passes by us in his dark skinned gloriousness.  I thought I saw him wink so when the flutter moved from my feet to my stomach, I think “ah, butterflies”. From the painful fluttering in the feet of my stomach to the tightening in my chest, I close my eyes in pain and confusion. Unable to open my eyes anymore because “darn, this pain is unbearable”, Chioma screams “snake! snake!!!!!”. Lastly, in darkness, I hear scuffling as I fall softly to the ground. I died. C.O. Ezeala.

LADIES @30; An Episode A lot of women today have clocked 30 or just 40 without marriage or just a serious man by their side, not because God did not provide a man for them. He did but they were all looking for perfections. They were looking for that wealthy business man, for that well educated man with a good job, for a handsome man that drives a nice car e.t.c. Many of you had a chance with a not well known business man but you didn't want him because he is making less profits, but you forget that most successful business men started with something looking not so serious. Most of you had a chance with a medical student but he was too broke, so you left him but forgetting that every successful surgeon today started as a medical student. A lot of you said no to a man that wanted to take you serious , just because he didn't own a car or because he didn't not own a latest car, but you forget everyone who has a car didn't not own one at some point and everyone

# The_Covid_19_Fear_Among_Health_Workers #Our_PPEs AS ONE OF THE frontliners in these trying times, I'd have to admit that I'm terribly worried. The number of health workers lost to this pandemic in Nigeria is rising by the day. Most of the centers, as expected in Nigeria, do not have adequate Personal Protective Equipment (PPE), and in some areas where they exist, they are not complete or enough. In the center where I work, UBTH, the Management, arguably the best around right how, has made arrangements for PPE especially for those of us frontliners who meet patients as they enter the hospital for the first time with health challenges either at the Accident & Emergency, Children Emergency, or even the Consultant Outpatient Department, COPD. The PPEs, though funny-looking 😃😃😃 and incomplete according to recommended guidelines, are actually as important as they are funny. However, regardless of these laudable measures, you can't wipe away the panic, the

Note You don't need to know everything as a lawyer. But you see ba, don't give any form of advice on areas you are not familiar with. What almost everybody knows is that once you register a company, it should end with 'Limited'. But there are other categories. Someone reached out to say that he was advised to register an 'Unlimited Company' because he wants to do film, agriculture and one other stuff. And that an Unlimited Company would enable him do anything he likes since he is doing many things. I tried to manage my ego not to talk down a colleague. I can hardly advice any young person to register an unlimited company. Even though it strengthens credibility and confidence in business, but it also make the shareholders live in a house without a roof. You know that thing they say if anything happens it's the  Company you will held responsible? In an unlimited company?  If business goes bad for you as a young Company, you will pay with everything yo

Heaven on Earth Marriage I don't believe in waiting for the experience to testify of a heaven on earth marriage. No, I lay my testimonies ahead, and I make utterances of what I want to experience in advance... ********** Babe,  I see you naked everyday. We make mad love with the lights off some nights. But then, each time I watch you ministering on the altar I get swept off my feet with the anointing you usher into the atmosphere. So powerful, so strong that sometimes it leaves me in wonder; isn't this the same person that never wanted to let me go in our intimate moment last night? How is it that your presence carries an anointing that words cannot explain. Each time you minister to people, souls are touched, including mine - me that have seen you naked a thousand times. I kiss your soft and gentle lips every day and it feels amazing. Then, each time you raise the fruits of those same lips to declare a thing it comes to fruition. I have seen it, I have experienced th

They Will all pay dearly      I was in bed with you as we both cuddled and slept. Hours later you stood up from the bed and left with words unsaid.      I heard the sound of water that ran into the  drum. There in bed I was still laid waiting to hear from you.  Just then I heard gunshots from outside and  I was so scared to come out.      You went fetch water but you left your empty can of water lying carelessly on the ground. Here you are lying faced-up in black ashes clothed round About you.  You left me at 5:57am so you could get the first fetch From the stream but everyone  muddles it up by morning.      They burnt my love.  They left me without you.  I'm pregnant and I held it in for a morning surprise news to you. They  say they had been after a black morning thief.  You weren't their thief.      You were my love         The father of my unborn child. The dawn is here and the real thief has been captured. They brought him To the village square  for Mockery

The Nigerian Criminal Justice, Correctional System and What it Entails.        One would  wonder what the Nigerian Criminal  Justice  entails in its entirety.  The Nigerian  criminal  justice hinges on the Nigerian  Legal System  as the Constitution  of the Federal Republic of Nigeria  1999 (as amended)  posits it's foundation  thereof. Chapter 4 of the Constitution (FRN), particularly  Sections 33-46 further in its broad way expands the rights of individuals,  criminalities at different  stages  and the consequences of certain wrongs when acted upon by the citizenry of Nigeria  Not just the constitution recognizes the existence of  the Nigerian Criminal  Justice  and correctional  systems,  certain laws such as the Administration of Criminal Justice Acts and Laws of both the federation and State,  Criminal  Procedure Code laws, Penal Code Laws have both been created in Criminal  Jurisprudence to guide acts performed in both sections of the Nation-State, Nigeria. If rightly  divi

My Man Was Crying As i was travelling to town From the village As the festive period had ended Right on our way I was extremely pressed Seeing I had been managing This time I couldn't I had to stop driving I had just packed my car at one side of the road Opened one of my car doors I squatted almost about to release H20 turned urine, I noticed a small sized Car packed few meters away apparently Someone was doing the same thing I Yearned for .  only for one odd thing She was already bent to do her business When I saw a man behind her with a matchete In his hands about to strike Fear gripped me I looked hard only to discover she had found out She screamingly ran to the other side of the road There and there another huge figure came out from That part of the bush like area on the path she had Crossed over. She screamed even harder Sweat dripped from my crown I quickly wiped it out Then again, another male figure quickly dragged her By the hair she screame

Umbilical Branch; Saving the youth. There were five of us who grew up in the same neighborhood People said our births were divinely orchestrated for love We shared love like children from the same umbilical branch We shared our thoughts and every dream Our families weren't too wealthy either. We would most times go help our mothers trade in the market To enable them make great sales. We saw that part, yes that part Of life where the desire to meet every days struggle was our aim. I prayed that I would be a great lawyer to help our neighborhood The other girls had their yet unfulfilled dreams and aspirations. Just within a little span of years, Grace's aunt came down from the west with the aim of training Grace at the school they had there. We cried the sisterly cries and gave her our pieces of advice, then  she left for greener pastures. For the problems indigent living cost us, we have no means to contact Grace. Amara met a foolish old man who lives three bloc